finding ways your okay with to discipline your kids is hard.
Nahla is 20 months old..4 months from being a 2 year old and even though she doesn't talk a lot she's very smart and understands pretty well. I finally decided it was time to start punishing her for doing bad things (besides just saying no) because she understands what she is doing is wrong, and she likes to test our patience and do naughty things for fun.
It is something i have been avoiding, because i'm not big on it obviously, i don't think anyone is.
So i'm not a spanking kind of mom. I think its a choice and its just not for me. She does get little smacks on the hand once in a while if shes going for something real bad, like the stove or a knife or something. but for the all around naughty stuff she does time out. Every time she does something naughty she goes in her corner for 1 min. Which doesn't seem like long, but trying to keep her there while she is screaming and throwing a fit makes the time drag.
We've only done it for 2 days, and shes only been in the corner 4 times so its hard to say if it is working. She hates the corner if that means anything, and it makes her mad at me afterwards so i guess its at least teaching me to be okay with a baby that doesnt adore me, which is hard lol.
The only problem i've found is she will do more bad things right away to "teach mom a lesson" 3 of her corner times were in 5 min the first day. First she threw her food on the ground after being told no(a big no no at grandmas) Then after getting out she thought she'd show me who's boss and tossed a whole carton of blueberries on the ground with a smirk...back in the corner. second time getting out and shes pissed..she heads for the cat litter strutting in there like shes queen of the world and she's face to face with the wall for the third and final time. Then she gives up...Kinda makes me wonder if jail actually helps people or not.
To tell the truth i almost like having something figured out. It makes me feel a little bit in control. Like nahla isnt going to turn into a leash kid. Or a bully.
oh little nahla lol it's no wonder people don't want to hire jail birds. they will probably just do something to their company that will throw them back into jail.
ReplyDeleteon the nahla note, i think you're being a wonderful mom. i guess her being mad at you means that it's working lol